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I've decided that I will no longer go to comic book conventions. One of my archenemies in small press comics often goes to comic cons, and I don't want to be in the presence of an archenemy.
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Re: Banned for life!
Fri, April 14, 2006 - 10:51 PMBut its those little awkward moments in life that make everything worth it!
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Re: Banned for life! - ( Stand back up, and look at what you do have.)
Sat, April 15, 2006 - 11:36 AMSir. I remember dealing with someone simular to your experience.
What I did - is simply invest in building up a Comic X Anime webpage site. All you need is some of your own "brilliant" thinking, and some permission to do your own thing - the way you would like to design from the start, and simply drive your own vehicle to success.
- Don't rub that other person's nose into the dirt.
--- The more you end up trying to prove "something", It stops being fun. You need to remember what it took - to get you interested in the material in the first place and keep going. ( Let whomever you pick as an adversary - learn from their own folly.) The point is to get some distance away from jerks and just come up with your own material.
There will be a time that you will be in the same room with "jerks."
The trick is - to not even acknowledge them, and do your own thing. To heck with them.
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Re: Banned for life! - ( Stand back up, and look at what you do have.)
Mon, April 17, 2006 - 11:39 PMIf you're both archenemies, which one wears the tights, and which one twirls the mustache and says, "Nyahahaha!!" ?
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Re: Banned for life!
Tue, April 18, 2006 - 7:10 AMAre you serious? Then you should take your website down 'cause chances are he has one too and you're both in each other's presence on the world wide web. Really, don't be scared. What'd you do, sleep with his wife? Just go to the conventions, look him in the face and say "I apologize for calling your wife a bloated wart hog"... With all due respect, don't be a punk. Don't be intimidated especially when going to conventions is necessary for business. I would just ignore him.
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Re: Banned for life!
Fri, June 2, 2006 - 11:04 PMPeople like this arch-enemy of yours are basically bullies. I have had some bad experiences with bullies recently myself. It is true that these people only want some sort of reaction...even if it is anger and hatred. They get a kick out of people that don't like them getting mad (or scared), so the best solution is to pretend they don't exist.
This 'arch-enemy' of yours is probably someone that is jealous of you because of your talents, looks, intellect, etc. Because of this, he (she) thinks that if they can 'overpower' you somehow (by being obnoxious), then they are 'better' than you.
However, if you are displaying your comics at one of these conventions...then this person would probably avoid you like the plague.
Nietchze said that "Living well is the best revenge." There is nothing that would make this person feel worse than to see you selling your comics...with a big smile on your face as you sign them for a crowd of fans.
If, however...you refuse to go to the comic cons because of them, then 'they have won', because they scared you away from it. -
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Re: Banned for life!
Mon, June 5, 2006 - 6:48 AMI think your assessment is a little off. The archenemy in question said he doesn't want me at his house, but he said it's OK for me to meet with the local cartoonist group when the meetings are not at his house. I think the problem is that he and I have different ideas of what friendship is. I speculate that in his mind, it's OK not to treat all your friends equally. In my mind, it's wrong not to all your friends equally. If he decided to ban ALL his friends from his home, I wouldn't feel so bad. But since he's decided to ban me from his home yet allow his other friends there, I feel disrespected and discriminated against. I wish it where possible for me and him to negotiate an agreement that would save face for both of us. But as far as I can tell, I have a better chance of being elected preisdent of the Twelve Colonies of Kobol than I have of ever setting foot in his house again.
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Re: Banned for life!
Mon, June 5, 2006 - 6:51 AMOh yeah! I forgot to mention that the archenemy is way more successful and way more popular than I am at comics. He probably sells more of his stuff at a single convention than I've told in that last 10 years. So I doubt very much that he's jealous of me.
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Re: Banned for life!
Mon, June 5, 2006 - 9:36 PMWhat the hell? OK. Honestly, what the hell did you do to this guy??? Can we please get some details? You're either friends or not. And why do you wanna go over someone's house that don't like you? This is why we have phrases like "Fuck you" and that's what you need to tell this mother fucker. -
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Re: Banned for life!
Tue, June 6, 2006 - 9:20 AMI think it was around November of last year when I was last at the archenemy's house. During one weekly cartoonist night meeting, after most of the other people left, I talked to him and one other person about how some of the people in the group are being disrespectful to me. I believe the archenemy (who I'll refer to as Naquadah from now on) subtley expressed his dissatification with my opinion there asnd said something like, "I never had to ban someone from my house at cartoonist night before, although I did come close." Then a week later, i got an e-mail from him telling me I can nerver come to his house when cartoonist night is there, but I can come to cartoonist night when it's being held at other places. When I asked if we where still friends, he said we were mainly because we have far more in common with each other than we have with most other people.
The problem to me is cartoonist night has been "contaminated." Of course I don't want to be around Naquadah or anyone else who's going to disrect me. But at the same time, there are those at cartoonist night who have ALWAYS respected me. I can't go to cartoonist night if one or two enemies remain while the majority of those there still like me. And thanks to a certain issue that came up back in April, not only have I decided to stay away from cartoonist night, but comic conventions as well.
That leads me to bring up one of the great conondrums of the world to me. That is, some people like me despite my "defective" personality, while other people don't like me because of it. Does that mean I should only associate with people who like me even though the world also contains people who don't like me? I say the answer to that question is yes. And I don't care if that makes me sound like an asshole!
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Re: Banned for life!
Thu, June 8, 2006 - 11:51 PMHmm, you said..
"Oh yeah! I forgot to mention that the archenemy is way more successful and way more popular than I am at comics"
Would that make Britney Spears a better musician than Amadeus Mozart? Britney Spears is way more successful and popular at music than Mozart was. Mozart was considered a 'freak' in his time, died penniless in a pauper's grave, and wasn't acknowledged until after his death. I think that Mozart probably had many enemies when he was alive. Think of Van Gogh. He barely sold a painting while he was alive, considering himself a failure compared to the throngs of anonymous 'Salon' painters of the day who painted bland, carbon-copy nudes and landscapes for patrons.
You speak about having a 'defective' personality. I think (and I might be going out on a limb here) that most artists and creative people feel this way about themselves. This is what spurs them to become artists to begin with, and not Politicians. It starts the whole process of introspection. "There is something 'wierd' with me. I have to find out what it is." Then you express this 'wierdness' in your art. This is what makes it unique. This expression of the unique perspective gained from your 'defectiveness' is what separates art from illustration.
Oh yeah! Jay is right. This guy sounds like he is ego-tripping on you, possibly due to the pressure of the 'friends' of his that were dissing you. If he has to ban you from his house to stop you from expressing your opinion, it's probably because he felt threatened by it. Otherwise, he could just politely point out what he disagreed with about what you had expressed.
Banishing you from the land of Naquadah for expressing an opinion he didn't like? Who is this guy, Stalin? Doesn't this guy beleive in freedom of speech? Does everything have to be cleared with the politbureau before this guy will accept it? Maybe he is starting his own politbureau. As a creative person and an artist, you are way better off avoiding these people.
He kicked you out, because you expressed an opinion that he didn't like? That's called 'Argumentam ad Ignoratium', one of the classical fallacies in argument. It amounts to saying
"I don't acknowlege what you say, so I win." Kind of like a five-year old plugging their ears and stamping and saying 'Na-na-na-na-na! I can't hear you!"
Are you afraid of this guy beating you up? Are you afraid of the social censure because he is in the same social circles as you? I would like to suggest that you could turn the tables on this guy by taking the whole event and turning it into a comic book, sort of like Harvey Pekar "American Splendour" style. What you are going through right now is something that everyone has experienced before at some point in their lives, and it's something everyone can relate to. You'll get your chance to express your opinion to everyone as a whole, while subtley showing those in the know what a creep he is. Best of all, he and the others who dissed you will know that you are talking about them, but they will never, ever, ever be able to tell anyone about it ever! Just make sure that you make the characters in your comic anonymous by making them rabbits, or robots, or even just people with different names. Stay true to the story though.
These people that dissed you will probably not even hate you for it, they might feel ashamed for the way they treated you. Even if they did want to pound you for it, there is no way that they could do it without revealing that it was them you were lampooning in the comics. If you were really afraid, you could do it under a pseudonym and claim it 'wasn't you'.
The good thing about making a comic about it is that it is a real life story that is ready made (you don't have to come up with a plot, characters, etc...). Also, it is a good way to work out your anxieties about the situation while resolving it at the same time. -
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Re: Banned for life!
Wed, June 21, 2006 - 6:38 AMI think I agree with most of what you said, James. Among other points is that Naquadah -- at least in my opinion -- is not very creative. All his comics are vitrually the same, with stories that seem to repeat themselves in every issue. Sure, some folks may like that and think of it as being creative. But is it unique? To some extent, it is unique. But on the most part, it's not
More to the point, Naquadah's attitude regarding art and life in general seems to be to do what's been done to death. I've noticed that a lot of "creative" people prefer to do things that have been done to death. I once quit a comics message board because the folks there frequently dissed my "out of the box" thinking. "That's not how you succeed at comics," they'd say. And I think Naquadah's deal is that life as to be as "normal" as possible. That those who associate with him (at least in his home) have to follow his view of things. He didn't seem to be like that when I first met him. Even even admitted to being a nerd himself (though he does seem to be far LESS nerdy than I am). But as he once told me, people change. Maybe so, but does that mean you hve to treat your friends like garbage and shit? I guess that would be valid in his mind. And the worst part is that MOST of the folks at cartoonist night treat me with the height of dignity and respect.
About the "defective" personality thing, I used to tell my former therapist how I fear that changing my mentality would interfere with my creativity. She said that such a change might actually enhance my creativity. And you know what? I disagree with her. Though there might be a remote chance that she's right, it's more likely that if my mentality became "normal", my art very likely would also become "normal." How can you create new ideas if the "normal" way of thinking is to do things that have been done to death? Ho ve!
As for doing a comic about the Naquadah problem, I'm way ahead of you. I did a issue of my Whino the Whiny Cat comic book where the title character deals with "friends" not unlike Naquahah and the couple of others who've done me wrong.
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